Do you find yourself stressed, frustrated, or tired often?
If so, what do your boundaries look like? You see boundaries are not just about saying no. Boundaries are about following through with no.
Getting your boundaries in harmony with your life is simple to set up.
But first, let me tell you a quick story.
One of the first moms that I worked with had a huge problem. She kept giving her husband and kids chore charts, ultimatums, punishments, you name it. Still no follow through with chores or other activities. She was at her wits end, and understandably so. You see when they didn’t do their part, it all fell on her. She didn’t know what to do, see she felt like she had already set the boundary but nobody was following.
I asked her three questions that changed the game up for her.
- Is your boundary clear? – When we dug deeper she discovered that everyone was not as clear as she was.
- Are you giving them the space to do it their way? – When you aren’t clear, you’ll find yourself micromanaging a task. This mom thought she had to watch over her family to make sure they got it right.
- What consequences do you have in place and are you ready to enforce them? – She had consequences in place but she never enforced them. That’s called “selling wolf tickets.” When you say you’re going to do something if someone crosses your boundary and don’t do it when they do. Because she rarely kept her word, neither did they.
If you take a look at your boundaries
- Clear so that everyone understands what needs to get done.
- Consistent with enforcing them and following through with your end of the deal.
- Compassionate with yourself and with them? Life is gonna happen.
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Share below what are some of your biggest boundary setting challenges. I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.
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